Sneak peek of my newest listing in BHPO.
12 Acres of private land, set above the street, and ready for your dream estate.
(Price upon request)
Dwell in Possibility
Nothing compares to what’s next.
People think too much. People worry, and kvetch, and while healthy skepticism and thoughtfulness are essential, people can what-if themselves into inaction. And then what happens? Nothing. The opportunity is gone and and then they worry and kvetch at the missed opportunity and will it ever come again?
Are you that person? It’s ok, you’re not alone. All of us experience this in one aspect of our lives or another. I met this woman Felicia Hatcher @feleciahatcher.max at the Aspen Ideas Festival in June and she continues to blow my mind (follow her!). She suggests that people procrastinate because they perceive a negative outcome and our brains are hard-wired to avoid negative outcomes. But what if we were able to dwell in the possibility of a positive outcome? That whatever happens (even if it is not perfect because let’s face it, nothing is), is actually going to be good? Would we say yes more? Would we embrace the discomfort of moving forward if we believed there was goodness on the other side?
Everything changes and nothing remains still; and you cannot step twice into the same stream.
The Greek philosopher Heraclitus is credited with this idea that the only constant in life is change. But change is hard! Our brains want consistency! So how do we retrain our brains to be comfortable with change– to make change the norm?
Build your curiosity.
When you think you know the answer, look deeper. Why do you think you know? Because of current evidence? Or because of a past experience that makes you think the same will be true here? Our brains build on predictions. It holds us back from danger. It also holds us back… when we could be growing. Heraclitus says to “embrace the change”. Ted Lasso says to “be a goldfish”. I don’t care who you draw your wisdom from, but as Mary Oliver said,
What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
Because you don’t step in the same stream twice. And opportunities abound.
Until next month,
Emily